This being Spring Break, Michael and I thought we'd switch places for a day so that he could have a day with the kids. The weather is lovely, and I was more than happy to do that.
I hadn't been hear at the Mail Center 45 minutes when he called to say, in a very exasperated tone of voice, "This ISN'T a day off!"
Well, it is for me.
It isn't that I don't love my children. God knows I adore the little monsters. And I am honestly grateful for each and every day that I get to spend home with them. I am getting to watch Katie learn everything for the first time. I am watching them grow up. Having Ian home with me instead of in daycare has not only been great financially, but it's really made a HUGE improvement in his behavior. And time is passing so quickly with Cory that he'll be ready to move out the next time I blink.
But it's not easy. By no stretch of the imagination is balancing three kids at such different ages with such different personalities, needs, wants, senses of humor, levels of tolerance and neediness. It's NOT easy. But I love it, and I've had time to adjust to it. Hell, if Katie were sleeping more than 2-3 hours at a stretch, I think it would be fairly easy, actually. But it's also something I'm adjusted to and I know what to expect.
It was very validating to hear that Michael sees how hard it is to stay home with them all day. I don't sit on the couch with my feet up, eating bon bons, and reading. It's work to stay home with them, run errands with them, cook with them, feed them all, get them to the various activities they are part of, and all the other millions of unpaid duties that go with fulltime dedicated parenting.
So, while I am here at the Whoop Whoop today, I am smiling and cheerful. I am making the most of my glimpse into what Michael's day is like. I don't mean to make it sound like what he does it easy. On the one hand, it is. On the other hand, he has to deal with each and every nutty customer that comes in with as much grace, dignity, and poise as he can muster and some time it takes more muster than others.
Have a lovely weekend,
-k